“All Joy and No Fun:” Parenting in the 21st Century #MeltingpotBookReview

Hello Meltingpot Readers, Earlier this year I promised myself I would read more. I’m a writer so reading should be a part of my regular practice, right? Because I like to write both fiction and nonfiction, exploring themes of race, culture, parenting and identity politics, I figured my reading selections should explore these topics and genres as well. So, I picked up Jennifer Senior’s (relatively) new book, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenting. I assumed reading this book would feel like homework, but I promised myself…

It Takes A Village To Save a Marriage

Hi Meltingpot Readers, Last week a friend of mine reached out for help. She and her husband were struggling and things had taken a turn for the worse. It wasn’t specifically to me that my friend turned to, but rather, to our book club. We’re a group that gathers quarterly to discuss our favorite books, eat and gossip. We range in age, race, religion and life experience, but we all have a love of great literature. While we only see each other in person four times a year, we keep…

“Black and Blue and Blond:” Meditations on Color and Family

Happy New Year Meltingpot Readers! I hope all of you are looking towards a productive and positive 2015. I am. I know I kind of disappeared for the holidays, but in addition to playing Santa Claus and trying to make the season Merry and Bright, el esposo had surgery and is not allowed to walk without crutches for another four weeks. Hello single motherhood! Still, it was a great holiday filled with love and family. And speaking of family, here’s a really wonderful essay penned by the writer Thomas Chatterton…

A Multicultural Version of Frozen: Kinda Sorta in a Song

Hi Meltingpot Readers, Do you have a small female in your household who is obsessed with the song “Let It Go,” tends to run around the house with a blanket draped around her shoulders like a cape, and bangs on closed doors screaming, “Elsa, Elsa, let me out?” I do. And it’s quite comical bordering on annoying, especially since my small female has never even seen the movie Frozen in its entirety. She thought it was too scary. But boy does she dig that song. And apparently at preschool, there…

Breakfast, Kids and International Flavors

Hi Meltingpot Readers, If you could sum up Ms. Meltingpot’s favorite things in the world, children, breakfast foods and international travel would probably make the top-ten list. Well, the New York Times combined these three things in stupendous photo essay this week called, “What Kids Around the World Eat for Breakfast” in their Sunday magazine. I’ve reread it several times, shared it with my own crumb snatchers, and then checked out the online version which offers a few more photos than the print magazine. Besides providing a glimpse into other…

Flashback Friday: “Not the Nanny Syndrome Doesn’t Discriminate”

Hi Meltingpot Readers, In a few weeks I am going to have a big, exciting announcement to make. It’s about my writing life, so don’t think I’m going to tell you all the sex of my unborn child. That train has long left the station. In the meantime, I’ll give you a clue by linking back to this post I wrote in 2012 about that pesky situation of being mistaken for your child’s caregiver when you don’t look like your offspring, biological or adopted. It’s maddening. And it doesn’t only…

My Kid has Mixie Hair and I Don’t: A Confessional

Hi Meltingpot Readers, Last week, I wrote an essay for xoJane about my absolute lack of hair styling prowess when it comes to my daughter’s hair. It was a true confession for all the world to see and critique, but I was happy to see that of the over 100 comments, most people only had nice things to say. Phew. If you have the time, feel free to check it out. Thanks!

Asian Baby Dolls: Where Are They?

Hi Meltingpot Readers, Consider this an open thread. In other words, I don’t have any answers, but I’d love to hear what you have to say on this subject. So, now that I have my very own babygirl, I’ve started paying attention to dolls again. As a child, I loved my baby dolls and stuffed animals, but with two sons, my doll obsession went dormant and was replaced with an affection for cool cars, trains and Lego’s. Of course, babygirl seems equally smitten with cool cars, trains and Lego’s because…