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Same Family, Different Colors: A Personal Story

Hi Meltingpot Readers,

If you have the time, please pop over to Newsworks.org to read my latest parenting column on what it means to be a member of a family with many colors. I will continue to blog over there on Newsworks about these issues in 2016, in anticipation of my new book coming out this fall. By the way, Same Family, Different Colors: Confronting Colorism in America’s Diverse Families

Same hands, different colors. My Family.

Same hands, different colors.

is already available for pre-order! You heard it here first. Thanks for reading as always.

Peace!

Adele Had Me at “Hello”

Hello Meltingpot Readers,

Adele's last album, 21 is awesome! Her next one, 25, drops next month and I can't wait.

Adele’s last album, 21 is awesome! Her next one, 25, drops next month and I can’t wait.

I don’t know if you all know how much of an Adele fan I am. Suffice it to say, I LOVE HER! Her voice moves me like none other. I could listen to Adele sing the fine print on my phone bill and I’d be crying tears of joy. And now, glory be, she has a new single out called “Hello.” Considering the fact that more than two million people have already liked the video on YouTube, clearly I’m not breaking any news here, but just in case, I thought I should let you know. And so you don’t have to leave this page to see the video, here it is. You’re welcome.

Did you love it? I did. She literally had me at “hello.” And of course, I was terribly curious who that cute young Black man was who played her love interest in the video. I did some sleuthing and found that his name is Tristan Wilds and he’s actually a pretty well-known actor and musician. My guess though is that he’s going to become even more well-known thanks to this video. Yay Adele, for adding some color to your melancholy.

What do you think, dear readers? Is Adele being daring in 2015 by making a Black man her love interest in this video? Have other White female singers done this before? If you can think of anyone, leave me a comment below.

Thanks!

Peace!

Mixie History in Maine: Malaga Island

Hello Meltingpot Readers,

I hope everyone had a colorful Fourth of July, if that’s your thing. I spent a lovely weekend celebrating a whole bunch of family achievements, from engagements to college graduations. We were in Buffalo, New York for the weekend, so we also took a moment to visit Niagara Falls. That was gorgeous.

It’s because we were on the road that this post is coming to you two days late and I apologize. I know many of you show up here on Monday morning looking for tasty new Meltingpot treats so it must be crushing to find last week’s post still hanging around. Shame on me!

A headline from the newspaper detailing the fate of the people from Malaga Island.

A headline from the newspaper detailing the fate of the people from Malaga Island.

No fear, I’m back. And with such an interesting story to share. I can’t take any credit for discovering it, but I am taking it upon myself to spread the word. Last week I mentioned in my post about Mat Johnson’s new book Loving Day, that I learned something new about Mixie History. What I learned was that there was a Mixed Race community that lived in the late 19th and early 20th century on an island off the coast of Maine called Malaga Island. The island was inhabited by Blacks, Whites and Mixed Race people living together despite the rest of the country’s fierce appreciation for segregated living, loving and learning. What happened to the people who lived on Malaga Island and their way of life is a tragedy that would have been forgotten if not for a pair of curious journalists who decided to tell their story in a very public way.

Please check out the website dedicated to telling what happened to the people of Malaga Island and remember that America’s history has never simply been a story of Black and White.

Have any of you ever heard of Malaga Island and what went on there? If so, how’d you hear about it? I’m totally listening.

Peace!

Essence Magazine’s May Book Picks: A Meltingpot Dream

Hello Meltingpot Readers,

It's all about the books in this month's issue of Essence.

It’s all about the books in this month’s issue of Essence.

When you think of Ms. Meltingpot’s favorite things, you know books, Black hair, and multi-culti family life are all on the list right? Well, it’s like Essence magazine Books Editor, Patrick Bass was thinking only about me when he chose what books to feature in the May issue of the magazine. Seriously, I think he created this list just for me.

While I would read everything on the three-page spread dedicated to books, the two standouts that I think you too, dear readers, will enjoy are Loving Day by Mat Johnson and Finding Samuel Lowe by Paula Williams Madison. Loving Day is a comic novel about an interracial relationship gone wrong and Finding Samuel Lowe is the true story of how the Black/Jamaican author goes in search of her estranged Chinese grandfather (Note, there is also a movie about this amazing family).

But there’s more. I did say this month’s picks were tailor-made for me, right? That’s because there’s also a book about Black hair featured in all of this literary goodness.

Miko Branch, one of the two masterminds behind the Miss Jessie’s hair product line just released her first book, Miss Jessie’s:Creating a Successful Business from Scratch – Naturally. The book is part memoir, part start-up how-to. This issue of Essence features a personal essay by Miko, the younger of the two Branch sisters, where she discusses for the first time publicly, her sister’s battle with depression and untimely death. The book was finished before Titi Branch died so the story really is both of theirs and Miko is determined to tell it along with the importance of speaking out about mental illness.

So, I’m off to the book store, dear readers. Does anyone want to meet me there?

Peace!

#LinkLove: Fresh, Hot and Tasty New Meltingpot Links

Hi Meltingpot Readers,

Mater Mea is one of the new links over there on the blogroll. Trust me, it's worth the click.

Mater Mea is one of the new links over there on the blogroll. Trust me, it’s worth the click.

Please notice over there on the right, that I’ve added some new links to my “Tastes Like the Meltingpot” blogroll; HapaMama, Mater Mea, and Multiracial Sky. These are websites/blogs I love and I’m sure you will too. I’m always trying to keep it fresh for my loyal (and new) readers who, like me, are always looking for new voices and new resources on the multiculti/ pop culture/ parenting beat. So, take a look and enjoy the new offerings. And please note, that while Afro-Viking author, Heidi Durrow’s blog, Light-Skinned-ed Girl isn’t new, she’s just come back to regular blogging after a prolonged break. I’m excited to hear from her again.

And, one more link before I go; check out this 2012 story in the Washington Post about the almost extinct Punjabi-Sikh-Mexican American community in the Southwest United States. I know, what? Yes, there once was a thriving East Indian-Mexican American community in states like California and Arizona that are only now getting attention as they face extinction. Think chicken curry enchiladas and let your imagination run wild. Yum and Yummy! By the way, before this community fades into extinction, there is a kickstarter campaign meant to preserve the culture through dance. Yep, the story of the Punjabi-Mexican community has been recreated in a show called “Half and Halves: A Dance Exploration of the Punjabi-Mexican Communities of California.” I can’t make this stuff up. America’s meltingpot is just this delicious.

Peace!

If You’re in the Chicago Area…Check Out the Critical Mixed Race Studies Conference

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Hi Meltingpot Readers,

If any of you live in or near the Windy City, you might want to check out the Critical Mixed Race Studies Conference happening this weekend, November 13 – 15th at DePaul University in Chicago. Even though it sounds like a completely academic-y thing to do, it’s totally geared towards audiences beyond those who toil in the Ivory Tower. While many of the presenters are indeed university scholars studying the mixed race experience, there are plenty of panels featuring artists, educators, community activists and even parenting experts. Not to mention, the conference is being co-sponsored by Mixed Roots Stories, an organization dedicated to exploring the mixed race experience through the arts. Mixed Roots Stories will be bringing live entertainment, films and artwork to the conference. I so wish I could be there. But just because I can’t doesn’t mean you can’t take advantage. Did I mention the entire three-day conference is free?! And walk-in registration is available. For more details and registration information, please visit the website.

If anyone decides to go, please feel free to leave a comment and tell us how it went. Thank you and you’re welcome.

Peace!

Monday Microagressions Comic Relief: If Black Women Said…

Hi Meltingpot Readers,

I have a new obsession and it’s called Buzzfeed. *hangs head in shame* My brother sent me a link to this hilarious video entitled, “If Black Women Said the Stuff White Guys Say” from the funny people at Buzzfeed. Yes, it’s meant to make you laugh but underneath the humor is a really effective way to get people to think about the microagressions Black women face every day. Like, I laughed until I almost peed myself watching this, but mostly because I could relate to every single example in the video. And that’s not funny at all. So, rather than keep all this highbrow humor to myself, enjoy. And be warned, there are also, If Latinos Said…, and If Asians Said… versions as well. You’re welcome.

Happy Anniversary!

Hi Meltingpot Readers,

Today el esposo and I celebrated 15 years of marriage. Yes, if you do the math, we partied like it was 1999 on April 3, of 1999. Three kids, several transatlantic flights, two houses, two returns to school, one new career and we’re still here. Together.

Marriage isn’t easy. Parenting isn’t easy. Throw in two languages, two different cultures. Two very different personalities and you begin to understand this Kinky Gazpacho life of ours. It’s not always fun and sometimes it’s really, really hard, but, dear readers, I can honestly say el esposo still makes me laugh and I still think he’s cute and he’s still my best friend.

El esposo & I, way back in the day.

El esposo & I, way back in the day.

Since it is our 15th anniversary, we’re actually going to celebrate, something we haven’t done since our first anniversary, when we went to Portugal. This year, I think we’re just going to go to the movies. We haven’t done that in years either. The last movie we saw together, I believe, involved a talking zebra and some circus animals.

What would you do to celebrate 15 years of marriage? Get a tattoo? Open a bottle of champagne? We’re not celebrating until Saturday, so send me your ideas. I’m listening.

Peace!