Is Calling an Asian Woman a ‘Tiger Mom’ Racist?

Is Calling an Asian Woman a ‘Tiger Mom’ Racist?

Hi Meltingpot Readers, I’d like you to weigh in on this for me. An Asian friend of mine recently had an incident at work where she made a comment about some trouble her children were having at summer camp and a White co-worker called her a “Tiger Mom” as a joke. My friend was furious and hurt. Not only does she find the term racist, but it effectively diminished her ability to “parent in public.” The worst part is, she’d already schooled her co-workers on a previous occasion as to…

Same Family, Different Colors: A Personal Story

Same Family, Different Colors: A Personal Story

Hi Meltingpot Readers, If you have the time, please pop over to Newsworks.org to read my latest parenting column on what it means to be a member of a family with many colors. I will continue to blog over there on Newsworks about these issues in 2016, in anticipation of my new book coming out this fall. By the way, Same Family, Different Colors: Confronting Colorism in America’s Diverse Families is already available for pre-order! You heard it here first. Thanks for reading as always. Peace!

Dear Black People: An Open Letter to the Black Families on Philly’s Main Line

Dear Black People: An Open Letter to the Black Families on Philly’s Main Line

Dear Black People on the Main Line, No, not all the Black people. I’m sure some of you are super happy there and if you are, please feel free to completely disregard everything I’m about to say. I’m actually talking to the Friday family that was profiled in the depressing and disheartening story in the December issue of Philadelphia magazine, titled “Racial Profiling on the Main Line.” And while this letter was inspired by the Fridays, I know there are other families like them dealing with the same, ugly, race-based…

Happy Halloween! Make it Cheap and Easy

Happy Halloween! Make it Cheap and Easy

Hello Meltingpot Readers, Tomorrow is my favorite holiday, Halloween. It’s really about the kids, but I like dressing up and eating candy too. What? You don’t? I won’t judge. Well, I wrote about why I love Halloween over at my new parenting blog, Philly Parenting on Newsworks.org. Feel free to check it out and share it with your friends. I’d love to hear how other parents feel about Halloween. You know I’m listening. Boo!

Is Private School “America’s Promise?”

Is Private School “America’s Promise?”

Hello Meltingpot Readers, I’m only about one year late on this, but I just watched the documentary American Promise last night. (Thank you, Netflix!). While I enjoyed watching the film immensely, I’m left with a bad taste in my mouth. For those of you who haven’t heard about this powerful documentary, in a nutshell, a Black couple decided to film their son’s education from kindergarten through twelfth grade. Think of it as one long, endless reality show, but with a point. What that point was exactly, I’m not sure. I…

Happy Birthday, “Substitute Me!”

Happy Birthday, “Substitute Me!”

Hello Meltingpot Readers, Sorry for dropping off the face of the earth. I could give you a list of reasons why I have neglected you so, but do you really want to waste your time reading about my pitiful life? No, you want to get to the good stuff, right? So, on this day, five years ago, a full year before I birthed babygirl, I gave birth to my first novel, Substitute Me. It’s a story about two women, one White, one Black, one the employer, one the employee. It’s…

#Flashback Friday: Motherhood as a Competitive Sport

#Flashback Friday: Motherhood as a Competitive Sport

Hello Meltingpot Readers, Recently a New York Times Op-Ed piece ran that suggested Black mothers were better mothers than White mothers. Besides the multiple comments berating the writer for daring to suggest such a thing on the New York Times website, one Black woman wrote a pretty scathing take down of the Times piece in the Washington Post, pretty much shaming the Times writer for resorting to Mammy stereotypes to promote Black motherhood. And all of this just further perpetuates the mommy wars that really, in my opinion, is a…

“All Joy and No Fun:” Parenting in the 21st Century #MeltingpotBookReview

“All Joy and No Fun:” Parenting in the 21st Century #MeltingpotBookReview

Hello Meltingpot Readers, Earlier this year I promised myself I would read more. I’m a writer so reading should be a part of my regular practice, right? Because I like to write both fiction and nonfiction, exploring themes of race, culture, parenting and identity politics, I figured my reading selections should explore these topics and genres as well. So, I picked up Jennifer Senior’s (relatively) new book, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenting. I assumed reading this book would feel like homework, but I promised myself…