My Kid has Mixie Hair and I Don’t: A Confessional

Hi Meltingpot Readers,

Last week, I wrote an essay for xoJane about my absolute lack of hair styling prowess when it comes to my daughter’s hair. It was a true confession for all the world to see and critique, but I was happy to see that of the over 100 comments, most people only had nice things to say. Phew. If you have the time, feel free to check it out. Thanks!

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9 Thoughts to “My Kid has Mixie Hair and I Don’t: A Confessional”

  1. Susanna


    I really wouldn’t worry too much about styling your daughter hair. I am mixed race with two white parents and my Mother struggled with my hair and me squirming and screaming when she tried to untangle it every morning so for years kept it short and sweet. I did occasional have it braided and beaded at a local afrocarribbean hairdressers though the first time I did get set home from school for it my very white English public school didn’t really know what to do with its solitary black girl and her hair, but that’s another story. Basically as I got older I took over doing my hair and just by playing with it and my younger black brother on who’s hair I taught myself to cornrows I developed my own style that suited my very individual hair. And while Zi do still have my hair braided from time to time mostly do my own thing and my hair is a crowning glory. So just have fun and enjoy playing with your daughters hair she love it too and you will find a style that works for you both.

    1. Ms. Meltingpot

      Thanks Susanna. What a great hair story. You just made me feel so much better πŸ™‚

  2. Mi

    Your daughter is beautiful and so are you! Thanks for sharing.

    1. Ms. Meltingpot

      Thank you!

  3. Soyyo

    You have a beautiful daughter! I’m white and so are my daughters and I wonder if I’ll be any good at doing anything with their hair, still. They are too little and have too little hair to worry yet. I have snipped the back of my almost two year old’s hair to avoid the “toddler mullet,” though. πŸ˜‰

    Just to say you’re not alone and even people with daughters that have the same hair texture struggle.

    1. Ms. Meltingpot

      Thank you. Seriously, it feels good to know I’m not alone in my hair struggles πŸ™‚

  4. Wendy

    You’re daughter is adorable. You’re honesty in the article was refreshing! White hair can be challenging too! I like one comment about how slippery it is! That’s MY HAIR!!!!! My mom wasn’t that good at my hair either and it was full of bumps and whatnot. My daughter’s hair seems to be like your daughter’s hair. It will get easier as she ages. Until my daughter was about three and had some length on her hair it was hard to do anything with it. I found that damping her hair helps a lot if I want to put it up. It tames the curls so I can put them in a pony tail. I love her curls however.

    1. Wendy

      PS. Could you please remove my last name from the above post!

      1. Ms. Meltingpot

        Done and Thank you.

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