“I Love Lucy” – I Met My BFF in Morocco

In the summer of 1989, I lived in Morocco as an exchange student. I was an AFS student and truly believed that my life would be changed by immersing myself in another culture. And it was. Living in Casablanca with my host family — three brothers and eight sisters ranging in age from 33 to 6 — completely opened my eyes to the fact that the United States was just a speck in the universe and that life could be lived in so many different ways. I learned how to speak French and Arabic. I learned how to eat couscous with one hand. I learned how to sit back and enjoy the stillness of life and the beauty of just being with the ones you love. Yes, Morocco taught me so much about life and myself.

But I won’t lie. Living in Morocco as a 17-year-old who had never before left the country, also came with challenges. I’d studied Spanish in school so communication was tres difficult. I lived with a family who lived far away from the center of town where all of the other American exchange students were living. I didn’t like lamb. The culture shock was mind numbing.

But then came Lucy.

Lucy & Lori BFFs since 1989

I met Lucy during AFS orientation before we left for Morocco. She seemed really nice, but we didn’t have too much time to bond before we were shipped off to our respective families in Casablanca. Finally, we had a chance to get together about two weeks into our stay. Our host mothers arranged the date and one of my host sisters put me a city bus and off I went. I was terrified (*note a city bus in Casablanca was much like the bus scene in the movie Romancing the Stone. Lots of bodies pressed up against you and some random livestock clucking at your feet.) but I really wanted to talk to another American. When I got off the bus and saw Lucy, dressed in a traditional djellaba, red hair flying behind her, I almost sobbed with relief.

We spent the next three hours sharing stories about our experiences so far, sipping on cold Cokes and munching on delicious raisin pastries. And here’s what Lucy told me. Yes, she was scared too, and her host family situation was crazier than mine, but she wasn’t going to let that stop her from enjoying every moment of our summer in Morocco. “This is all going to be over so fast,” she told me. “And you don’t want to regret anything.” She was so right. And because of her advice, I went back to my host family and told my fears to take the night off. I threw myself into my Moroccan adventure and had the most glorious time (see first paragraph for details.) as a result.

When we got back to the States, Lucy went home to New York and then off to college in Connecticut. I went home to Wisconsin for my last year of high school. Lucy and I stayed in touch and tried to figure out how we could ever spend more time together. I almost went to her college, but in the end, I chose Smith College. When she graduated, Lucy moved to Thailand. Whenever she’d come home for a visit, we’d try to meet up. But then, Lucy married an Israeli, and moved to Israel. And now she lives in England. It seems we were never meant to be in the same place at the same time. But our bond, permanently forged in Morocco, has never been stronger. I love Lucy like a piece of my own heart.

Yesterday, my heart soared because Lucy and her family were in the United States. El esposo, the kids and I drove almost 200 miles to spend the day with them. Lucy has two daughters almost the exact same age as my two sons. Her husband only speaks to them in Hebrew. Just like el esposo (but in Spanish). Our kids broke the ice with one another playing Clue and I felt all sparkly and warm. It feels like our bond is just growing stronger. And I marvel at that, considering we hardly ever see each other and never speak on the phone. We just email each other. A lot.

I think it just goes back to Morocco. That was such a magical time in my life. I kid you not, living in Morocco fundamentally altered my perspective on life. And Lucy was a crucial part of that experience, so I guess she’ll always be a part of me.

Tell me dear readers. Do you have a Lucy in your life? A friend that you may not frequently see, but one that will always be your BFF? I’m curious how you met and what keeps you close. Was travel part of the story? Do you feel like sharing?

I’m listening.

Peace!

4 comments for ““I Love Lucy” – I Met My BFF in Morocco

  1. Cyretha
    24 August, 2012 at 3:28 am

    Yes, I have BFF similar to yours. However, our story is slightly different. My father and her mother were in high school together. She and I did not know each other growing up, because she lived in NY and I lived in NC. She spent summers in NC, but since she is a bit older than me our paths did not cross. So why is she my BFF? Because she was traveling and living around the world, something that I truly wanted to do myself. She married a Belgian, they have three beautiful kids ( more on that later). The lived in Taiwan, Belgian, the US and France. I met her and her family in the early 1990’s. During a business trip to Europe, I stopped off in Belgium for a visit. From that point, we just clicked. I visited them everytime I was in Europe and then they moved to the US. By then I was living in London, so we talked nearly everyday on the phone. Later I moved to Paris and they moved to Toulouse. You would think finally living in the same country we would see each other more, but that did not happen. I soon moved to Switzerland and getting to Toulouse was not so easy because most flights went through Paris, which just made the trip too long.

    Since childhood, I wanted to live abroad. I had traveled many times to different countries and I wanted that expierence of living there and not being a tourist. So once that reality hit, I had someone with whom I could share the experience and who could relate to that transition. When I did not understand cultural differences, she was there to help explain them to me. Even now, we still don’t see each other often, but believe me we communicate everyday either via phone, email or texting, no matter where we are in the world.

    Remember above I mentioned she had three kids? Well, the kids are all grown now. One lives in China, one lives in Australia and one is in the US. Two of the three are now married. The first grandchild arrived last year and I receive pictures of him, just like he was my own.

    So many years ago, when I was dreaming of embarking on an international life, I had no idea how it would develop or who would be a part of it. I can just say my BFF has made it a positive journey.

    • Ms. Meltingpot
      24 August, 2012 at 11:13 am

      Cyretha,
      I love your stories. Your BFF and your experiences in the world sound so glorious. I too thought I’d grow up and live all around the world. I thought I’d be living abroad by now, but there’s still time, right? I’m working every angle. Thanks for the inspiration.

      • Cyretha
        24 August, 2012 at 4:04 pm

        Yes, there is still time and the international community outside the US is waiting for you and your family. Come and join us!

        • Ms. Meltingpot
          24 August, 2012 at 11:49 pm

          Cyretha,
          Thanks! Dreaming…

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